‘You’re so self-consumed’

‘He only loves himself’

‘Don’t be so selfish’

These are some of the more negative associations with the word ‘selfish’, but I wanted to write about ways in which selfishness can be an overwhelmingly positive trait when viewed from another point of view.

When I contact people who have enquired about coaching, I mention what I believe to be one of the most powerful outcomes of the process, that people don’t initially think of. When you are being coached it actually helps other people just as much as yourself, because when you reach your goals through the coaching process, the overwhelming feeling of achievement enhances your sense of contentment, wellbeing and empowerment. Essentially, your energy becomes stronger and more positive.

Carrying this strength and positivity has an overwhelming impact on those people you interact with and people will want to know where you got it from. By passing on the story of your journey to this moment, you will inspire others to embark on achieving their goals, because everybody wants that energy. Who wouldn’t?

This reminds me of one of the most influential and uplifting lines in a very random song, written by Phil Collins for Disney’s version of Tarzan:

‘In learning you will teach, and in teaching you will learn.’

I have come across this concept a number of times, in mind, body and spirit literature and poetry and the more life experience I have, the more this rings true. It relates strongly to the outcomes of coaching that I have just discussed. Interestingly, a number of people who respond to my initial enquiry questionnaire are seeking ways in which they can change their lives so they can help others, thereby demonstrating the self-less intention of self-improvement.

Please excuse this slight tangent, but I just wanted to share this with you also, for fun. Disney’s Tarzan was a film that had a very therapeutic and empowering impact in my life, when I was dealing with my sexuality. I went to see it on my own when I was at University. None of my friends would come with me because Disney wasn’t ‘cool’ to them (sad face ☹), but seeing it on my own was incredibly empowering.

Not only is the animation and soundtrack so beautiful, but the storyline dealt very sensitively with the difficulties of being different and not fitting in with the herd, but how your own uniqueness can be your strength and actually benefit the society you live in.

Investing time in self-improvement through something like Life Coaching can be unashamedly classified as selfish, but not in an exclusive, individualistic, ego-fuelled way. It is actually, the most loving way of giving the most powerful thing to everybody else. Their dreams.

So go on, be selfish today and make an enquiry to Coaching Earth!

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